How Do I Decide?

Dear Inside Man,

I just got over being sexually addicted to a great lover who was a jerk. (He never called, made snide comments about my looks and sat alone and drank).

Now I have recently committed to a great guy who pays attention to me but isn't as good in bed. Meanwhile the last guy to rock my world called from Hawaii and he would be soooo tempting, but I don't want to ruin it with my new boyfriend.

What do I do? Signed
Torn Apart

Dear Torn,

You need to get down to some serious truth telling. From what you say, it sounds like you are trying to make some sort of deal with the current boyfriend as emotional insurance. You also would like the have an exciting adventure with a great lover.

First of all, before you take any actions, you need to have a conversation with your current boyfriend letting him know you jumped in with both feet when maybe you should have been getting your feet wet.

Next you need to get a hold of your Hawaiian Lothario and let him know the score.

You would do well to find out if your boyfriend is willing to learn how to please you. If so, he will be a better risk than your tropical Ladies' Man.

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